The How-To Guide to Anal Fisting

On April 18th – Anal Fisting Day

So I am sitting here a couple of years after making my anal fisting t-shirt I made after Jim Jefferies declared it on stage and I was in love. So I thought id write a blog on how to do it!

Okay, let’s get this one thing straight from the outset Anal fisting is NOT for the faint of heart. But if you find yourself dabbling in other forms of butt play, you might want to consider spicing up your game with a handful of fisting techniques, from my side I love the pressure all over my hand inside a loved one.

Don’t go all-in on the first attempt, slowly build your way up and gradually introduce one finger at a time, doing it right, there will be no going back for you. Anal fisting can create the most orgasmic and intimate sexual acts out there. 

First Steps to Anal Fisting For Beginners

As always with any Kink and play first, discuss your hard limits and safewords. If you are a receiver, it’s probably good to get an enema. If you are a giver, wash your hands, trim your nails and file them it will make everything better oh and use latex gloves. Now I know hell it’s so exciting but you need to relax and lube up like so much lube too much is never a thing read this blog on starting Anal play. Have the receiver lie on one side. Insert one finger and gently and slowly work your way up until you get all five in.

What Exactly Is Anal Fisting?

Anal fisting is a sexual activity that involves the penetration of the anal canal using all five fingers. However and this is important the fister’s hand does not have to be shaped like a fist. We’ll discuss that in more detail later, but you are not punching their asshole.

Another widely held but incorrect belief about fisting is that it’s all about heavy thrusting, yes, anal fisting may involve thrusting but you can just as well use your hand to simply stroke or fill up the asshole.  Many people will wrongly associate anal fisting with pain and severe discomfort it shouldn’t hurt if it is slow down and add more lube! keep it on the gentler side for health and safety reasons.

What Does Anal Fisting Feel Like?

Well, do you like that feeling of being filled up to the limit have you played with some anal stretching toys, well if so then fisting can also certainly help with that. As I said above you can take the intensity of the sensation up or down a notch by changing the position and movement of the hand and fingers. 

The best bit is using a human hand can offer a much wider range of sensations and types of stimulation than conventional sex toys, yes again odd the sex toy shop says hands are better than toys but just think about it how would a dildo with five independently moving shafts feel?

Just like other forms of anal play, fisting can help you reach the big “O” by stimulating the prostate or the G-spot by massaging the posterior vaginal wall, in fact, fisting allows you to apply a lot more pressure on your sweet spots compared to more vanilla options such as fingering or sex toys. Some people find it easier to orgasm just through the stimulation of the anal canal alone.

Prepare For Anal Fisting – Getting Your Kit Together.

Before we start with our step-by-step fisting guide, let’s make sure you have the basics covered, as, with all anal play, thorough preparation is absolutely a must to avoid unpleasant and potentially dangerous incidents.

Stock Up On Lube

LUBE LUBE LUBE this cannot be overstated. Your anus is not self-lubricating, and you will be starting to insert an entire human hand in there. You are going to need copious amounts of lube to get the job done. 

If you’ll be penetrating using your or your partner’s hand only, silicone lube is your best bet. It has a thicker consistency and lasts quite long, which should minimize the need to reapply it too often. If you plan on throwing toys into the mix as well, stick to water-based lube. Most sex toys on the market today have silicone, and silicone-based lube will damage the surface. 

And if you will be using latex gloves (which I strongly advise), don’t even think about using oil-based lube, as it will break down the latex and compromise your health and safety. 

Gather Your Toys

While toys are entirely optional, it’s always a great idea to warm up your butt using something smaller and more manageable before shoving your whole fist in there. For best results, use a few toys that get incrementally larger in size, such as anal training kits or an anal dilator. That should give your butt a good stretch and prepare it for the main event. 

Put Down Some Towels 

You are going to be exploring your or your partner’s anus in great depth. This means it’s entirely possible to have a close encounter with some poop and no, enemas are not 100% poop-proof. Be on the safe side, make sure to lay down a few towels and keep some tissues handy. In any case, if some poop does come out, don’t panic, and don’t let that ruin the experience for you.

You can simply pop in the shower, clean yourself up, and resume the play. Don’t try to give yourself a douche or an enema at this stage, but do ReLUBE.

Learn Anal Anatomy

Learning to fist is one of the most extreme forms of anal play. While that can be incredibly arousing, it also significantly increases the risk of injury. To make sure that everyone is safe, you want to know what you are doing yes this blog will help but read more this blog on anal play will help but you can never know too much, study the anatomy of the anal canal in detail, read medical articles, look at pictures, and watch videos, that counts for both of you!

The more you know, the better prepared you will be for any eventuality.

Manage Your Expectations

For those with one the anus is unlike the vagina, the anus did not evolve to take things in. If anything, its sole physiological function is to push things out, the anal sphincters can be rather annoying at keeping things closed up. It’s totally normal; after all, they have to hold your poop in. 

With that in mind, you might want to manage your expectations, especially if you are not an experienced player. It’s highly likely that you won’t be able to accommodate an entire hand on the first try. And that is perfectly fine take it slow and gentle, add one finger at a time, and enjoy the ride. You’ll get there when you get there. 

Oh, and if you can’t even shove a regular butt plug or a dildo up your butt, forget about fisting altogether. Focus on fingering and inserting smaller-sized toys until you are stretched enough and ready for more